Last year I wrote a post entitled “Why I Left Facebook.” In the post I detailed my frustration with Facebook and my reason for getting off Facebook. I stayed away for six months, then I came back.
The six month hiatus was good, and helped me break many of my bad Facebook habits. Always feeling like I need to check Facebook, worrying about what others thought about me, and getting involved in arguments about things that I have no control over.
Ultimately I came back for what is good about Facebook: it’s where all the people are. I missed catching up with people with whom I used to work and go to school. I also find it very useful to keep in touch with other Microsoft MVP’s and people in the Dynamics CRM community.
Here’s what I learned during my absence from Facebook:
- If I’m bothered by Facebook, the problem isn’t Facebook, it’s me. If I feel compelled to check it every five minutes or worry that nobody liked what I posted, that is a problem with me and my natural tendencies to seek approval. Sure Facebook might amplify that, but ultimately the problem is me.
- Getting away is no big deal. I still regularly disconnect my account when I need to focus on a project or other aspects of life. It’s really no big deal. You can always come back and pick back up.
- I’m not as important as I think I am. I see people posting “I’m going to be taking a break from Facebook for a few days.” The reality is, if you disappear from Facebook for a month or two, nobody will notice or care, and that is how it should be.
- Leaving for an extended hiatus is the perfect time to cull your “friend” list. If you go away for 3-4 months, when you come back, you can “unfriend” all of the people who get your blood pressure up or you don’t really know, and have a much better Facebook experience.